The 5 ways a working dad applies the success of his job to the success of raising his daughter(s).

  1. For a dad to be successful at his job, he must stay focused on his primary objective.

    1. Often the objective for the company is profitability; therefore, a working dad might regularly look over the numbers to determine how the business is performing.  He might receive reviews periodically to see how he is performing on the specific tasks that contribute to the business’ success.  As he stays focused on the primary objective, he knows when to adjust to assure his and the company’s success.

    2. A focused dad is far greater than a focused employee because he is the only one who holds that special place in his daughter’s life. By focusing on her development, a dad can instill in her a high level of value and worth that will profit her in immeasurable ways.  A dad’s primary objective as it relates to his daughter is to give her guidance and to consistently remind her of how capable, beautiful, desirable and worthy of love she is.

    3. In a world where the distinctions between men and women are becoming blurred, research still confirms that the impact a father has on his daughter is significant. If he is present and focused, she is apt to be more confident and secure, but if he is absent she often struggles more severely in the areas of confidence and security.

  2. For a dad to be successful at his job, he must be willing to put in the necessary effort.

    1. Work is not always easy or pleasant and sometimes situations happen that require the need to put in more work and effort.  In a well-run business, this should be the exception rather than the rule, yet it is expected if you are going to be successful on the job.  Your efforts will not often go unnoticed and the impact is likely to be felt by others within the company.

    2. In the same way, being a dad is not always easy or pleasant and over the course of your daughter’s life you will have to put in some overtime and be more present, focused and work toward the objective of providing her with guidance, assurance, and love.

  3. For a dad to be successful at his job he must identify potential problems and work with a team to apply solutions.

    1. A successful employee will be able to identify potential trouble within his area of expertise and show initiative to do something about it.  Some situations he may be able to handle on his own and others he may need to solicit the help of other team members to make sure he and the company remain headed in the right direction. Not every problem can be handled independently.  This is what makes him an asset to the company and successful in his job.  

    2. A successful dad can see potential trouble as he makes himself an expert on his daughter.  Just like on a job, the more time you put in and experience you gain, the more knowledgeable you become.  Dads who invest the time to observe and learn about their daughter will be able to spot trouble. Sometimes it involves soliciting the help of others like, of course, your spouse, teachers, counselors, friends, etc. so that you can ensure she is receiving the best guidance, support and love possible.

  4. For a dad to be successful at his job, he must recognize that what is done consistently today impacts results tomorrow.

    1. Much of a job consists of tasks that are daily maintenance, like making phone calls, writing letters, inspecting equipment, crunching numbers or visiting customers, but these activities are crucial to the future success of the company.  No employee or company will succeed if these daily requirements are not fulfilled.

    2. Being present, giving loving touches, initiating meaningful conversations, providing positive feedback, remembering little details about her life, and providing loving discipline are all part of daily maintenance that a successful dad does most days, if not every day.  Doing these consistently will ensure a successful future for your daughter.

  5. For a dad to be successful at his job, he must regularly receive honest feedback and correction from those with whom he works closely. 

    1. It is not likely that a successful employee started off excelling in the job. There were likely times when he was corrected, challenged, or encouraged to do better.  When he takes the posture that this input is to make him better and not put him down, he will likely seek out ways to improve where he needs to and continue doing what he does well.

    2. There is always room for improvement for a dad.  What you perfected when your daughter was 2 years old must be revised when she is 3, 4, 5 and so on.  People are not always willing to offer unsolicited feedback and correction to one’s parenting. One of the greatest ways of getting open and honest feedback is by gathering and sharing with other dads. Watching and listening to how they approach and handle situations with their daughters is invaluable learning and will make a dad successful.

Harry Robinson

Harry has been an ordained pastor since 2005 where he served at Capo Beach Church as the Family Ministry pastor and in Pastoral Care.  In 2014, he served at Mission Viejo Christian Church as the Discipleship pastor. Before being ordained, Harry worked for 14 years in the corporate world for Gateway Computers and Armor All Products managing business development and marketing. Harry has a M.A. in Pastoral Counseling from Liberty University and a B.S. in Psychology & Social Science from Vanguard University.

He currently serves as a Chaplin for the Orange County Fire Authority (OCFA). Since 2011, he has been the President of Families in Rich Encounters (FiRE), a non-profit ministry providing support and counseling to families with the goal of bringing them into rich relational encounters.  He’s been married to his college sweetheart, Carmen, since 1989 and has four children – two boys and two girls.

http://wearefire.org
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